Thursday, January 29, 2009

if the pipe leaks... you must be in Asia!

Seriously, leaky pipes are the name of the game, par for the course.... you pick the idiom, I'll guarantee that your pipes will leak! Ours do.

Here's another important piece of the puzzle: local plumbers are worth exactly what you pay them. And I've never been charged more than about 5 bucks (for labor and materials). [Of course, I hope you know me well enough by now to realize that I am not in any way referring to the intrinsic human value of the plumber, but rather his value within his profession.]

Years ago we realized that Matt (with his training as an engineer) was infinitely more qualified than the local guys to fix just about any leaky pipe our apartment could dream up. Actually, come to think of it, I might put Julianna up against a local plumber.... she's taken enough baths and played with enough sink water to have the basic plumbing concepts down pat.

After all, how complex can the problem really be? It isn't exactly rocket science. Water should come from the faucet and go down the drain. Quickly. It should not form puddles on the floor, it should not seep up through the cracks in your tiling, it should not drip from pipe joints. It should go down the drain. Out of sight. Out of mind.

Yeah, right.

Not here.

Last weekend Matt spent part of his day off doing this.....



Yep, that's our bathtub. Detached from the wall. See, every time someone used the bathtub, water covered the bathroom floor. There's just something about a sopping wet bathmat greeting you at the end of your shower that puts a damper on the whole experience. The bathtub drain was working great. But the drain in the actual tub was never connected to the drain in the tile floor underneath the tub. So when the floor drain started backing up, the water seeped out from under the bathtub.

Matt ripped the bathtub from the wall (never fear, the initial caulking job was of such poor quality that this took little effort, he basically just heaved once, and the entire tub shifted a foot to the left). You don't even want to know what he found under the tub. I didn't take a photo.

He got that all nastiness cleaned up, and called our plumber, Mr. Zhang. We have Mr. Zhang on speed-dial. I know, I know, with all my speech about how plumbers aren't worth their stuff, why bother calling? Glad you asked. Mr. Zhang has the roto-rooter snake contraption that you poke down drain pipes to un-gunk them. We don't own one (nor do we ever plan to), so we call Mr. Zhang and have him bring his by the apartment. Regularly.

An hour or so later, Mr. Zhang and the snake roto rooter thingy showed up. He got that thing humming and un-gunked our tub drain in no time. 3 dollars every visit. It's his standard rate. Matt shifted the tub back in place, and spent about an hour caulking like a mad man. At one point he even went out to buy more caulk. He values thoroughness. I value a dry bathmat. What can I say? We make a good pair :)

The result? Pretty much as close to perfect as you can get. Which, in local-plumbing-terms means this: the tub still leaks a little bit (of course), but the leaking is contained to one teensy tinsy patch on the bathroom floor. The water doesn't even get close to the bathmat. Victory!

But guess what I am doing tomorrow morning? Calling Mr. Zhang. You see, our washing machine drain hole has this little quirk. Every 4 to 6 weeks, the floor drain that the washer hose runs into starts backing up. It's a slow start. I wash a load and notice a small patch of water on the floor. Next load, bigger patch of water. If I let the problem go untended, one load of laundry can flood the entire laundry room/guest bath. I washed 6 loads today. And mopped after every single load.

When Mr. Zhang sees my number on his caller id, he knows the drill. After all, he comes almost once a month for the same problem. I'll have my three dollars ready.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Gift #3

It's a boy!

And this time I think I believe them :)

Now, all we need to do is decide on a name. And convince Julianna to stop referring to the baby as "her"!

If all goes as planned, we leave for Beijing on March 7th (due date is March 21st). Our time at home is getting short. I'm a planner, so I already have a preliminary packing list - moving a family of 4 (growing to 5) to another city for a month is no easy feat. Julianna adds things to the packing list every day. She's mostly concerned that we have enough toys for the new baby to play with and that we pack a boxed cake mix for making cupcakes when the new baby is born (she's already chosen exactly which cake mix she wants and stored it in a special place in our pantry!).

We are all looking forward to meeting the newest little member of our family!

Monday, January 26, 2009

sounds at midnight

Here's a little video Matt took at midnight from our bedroom window..... as in, this is exactly what it sounded like in our bedroom. It was unbelievably loud. I'm no professional on matters like this, but I think to get the full effect of what it is like to be here, you'd have to plug your computer speakers into a high quality surround sound system turned up full blast.

The fireworks calmed down by 1 am. And started up again at 6am on the dot. It's a little after 8 pm now, and the neighbors are already proving that they saved a few fireworks from last night to use this evening. I'll have to remember to thank them later :)





PS - Matt narrated this video. What? You couldn't hear his voice? That's how loud it was. His face was inches from the microphone and the mic didn't pick up his voice. IT IS LOUD. Now do you believe me?

And I do have to end with another little advertising plug for a white noise machine. Yep, the girls slept through the whole thing. We absolutely could not believe it. I mean, they've slept through a lot of noise, but this one night of fireworks surpasses all previous white noise machine victories. By half past midnight, I would have paid serious money to be able to fall asleep and stay asleep (I love a good solid night of sleep and five hours just doesn't cut it!). Several times Matt went in to check on them, certain they must be sitting in their beds, awake and absolutely terrified. Nope, they were sleeping. But I do think it wasn't the best night of sleep - Lydia was pretty crabby this morning, and Julianna yawned at 9am. Here's hoping we ALL get a little more quality sleep this evening!

Sunday, January 25, 2009

When in Asia....

"When in Rome, do as the Romans do"?? Well, here in Asia tonight, the rough translation would be "when in Asia, set off lots of firecrackers"!

To be honest, I struggle to fully appreciate all aspects of the local culture. And the Lunar New Year celebration is one of the tougher things to fully appreciate, at least in my book. I mean, seriously, who in the world really likes listening to firecrackers?

Part of my dislike of the Lunar New Year stems from our experience last year, when we technically missed the actual New Year celebration because we were out of the country, but returned a few days later... only to discover that our apartment complex was in a continual power-outage/power-on cycle that would last for days on end, and that our neighbors had failed to use up all their firecrackers on New Year's eve and continued setting them off for ten more days! ARGH!

Matt, who generally handles cultural stress much better than I do, doesn't even remember last year's difficulties. At least that is his claim. I've been reminding him with helpful statements like "remember it was so cold in the apartment and we kept loosing power and all four of us slept in the same room to try to keep warm, except the two of us didn't really get any sleep and we wore layers of long underwear to bed and Lydia was just a little baby and you shared a single bed with Julianna and ....." I'm sure he's thankful I so helpfully reminded him of last year's joys. He keeps offering reassuring statements like, "I don't think it's as bad as you remember it honey". I remained unconvinced.

But, so far Matt has been right. It isn't as bad as I remember last year (this is at least in part because our power has remained on, which means I am not shivering as I sit at the keyboard!) This afternoon we ventured outside to "celebrate" with the locals. It was about 4:30, and the fireworks were starting to get cranked up. Pay attention at the beginning of the video (I took it with Matt's phone, so the picture is a little fuzzy). All that background noise? It's not poor video quality or wind rushing across the microphone.... nope, that's firecrackers. Notice that Matt has to lean close to Julianna so she can hear him!




It has only gotten louder since then! We will definitely still be awake at midnight - I cannot imagine sleeping through this racket. And I will take some more video then. After all, when in China.... if I'm not going to set off firecrackers, I might as well video the celebrations.

Oh yeah, and the little girls? Snoozing! It's all due to my favorite small appliance - the white noise machine. If you are a mom of young kids, and you live in an apartment or other similarly noisy community, you know the power of a good, loud white noise machine. Ours is cranked up to max volume and working its magic as we speak. It is like a wind tunnel in the girls room - I think a 747 could take off using our hallway as a runway and the girls would sleep right through it.

Nope, this is not last year's experience. Our apartment is warm. The girls are asleep in their own beds. And the neighbors are setting off boxes and boxes of firecrackers. Welcome to the year of the cow (ox).

Saturday, January 24, 2009

rested and refreshed

We walked in the door from our little retreat about two hours ago - Xiao Li, of course, left us with napping kids, a mopped floor, dishes washed, and the last load of laundry in the dryer. That's a GREAT way to re-enter life as a momma! Now I am just eager for the girls to wake up... I can't wait to see their smiling faces :)

She shared that she and her husband had a great fun playing with and taking care of our little girls. I know the feeling is mutual and can't wait for Julianna to tell me all the fun things she did with her "ayi" and "shu shu" (aunt and uncle). I am sure Lydia had fun too, but I fully expect her to attach herself to my knee and not leave my side until bedtime. She is rarely away from me and does not take the separation lightly.

Matt and I had a great time too - the hotel was on the outskirts of the city, and our room overlooked a beatiful lake with mountains on the far side. I woke up the first morning to the sound of geese - it took me by surprise, I couldn't even figure out what the noise was for the first few minutes! As city/apartment dwellers, the first thing I hear in the morning (other than the alarm) is usually the people upstairs moving around, a motorcycle driving past our apartment, or whatever..... city noises.

The closest thing I've heard to 'wildlife' in the past few months was the rooster that our neighbors bought to fatten up for the New Year festival. He crowed. Loudly. Early. A lot. But they killed him last week! I am not sure who was more thankful for the dead rooster - the feasting family across the way, or me and my ears at 5:45 each morning! Anyways, all that to say, geese honking as they fly across a lake is much more my idea of "happy wildlife noises to wake to".

Only one more day in the year of the mouse (rat). Once the girls wake we're going for a walk around town - this is a BIG celebration and the fireworks are already being lit, even though New Years Eve isn't until tomorrow. Maybe I'll take the camera....

Thursday, January 22, 2009

a few days away

Matt and I are taking a few days away... leaving this afternoon for a two night stay at a local hotel (a friend of a friend got us a FANTASTIC deal and I am really looking forward to the heated pool!)

I love these little "retreats" that we try to do every so often. But I also miss my girls so much. It is refreshing to get away and I do enjoy it, but it's hard to walk out the door. I know they are well cared for by Xiao Li. But I must admit that I like it best when they are cared for by ME :)

We've got some big changes coming up.... like baby #3, whose due date is a little over 8 weeks away. Wow! I am thankful for little retreats like this, especially when I know it's going to be a while until we get to do another one!!

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

basking in the sunshine

Well, I haven't posted much these past few days because we have been OUTSIDE!!! Yay for wonderful weather! The girls and I have been basking in the sunshine like cold-blooded animals trying to warm up. Which, considering how chilly it was INSIDE our house last week, I think it is entirely possible that our blood temperature dropped a few degrees. Even when we are inside we migrate towards the side of the apartment where the sunshine is beaming in through the windows.

Today the sky was a perfect cloudless blue and whatever it is that makes airplanes leave long white streams of clouds behind them was in action (does that have something to do with moisture in the air??). We live kind of close to the airport, but airplanes are typically way too high to see by the time they pass over our house. Unless the sky is cloudless and the long white streams of clouds thing is in effect. Like today. When we watched airplane after airplane leave its beautiful trail across the huge blue sky. It was awesome.

We are in a great little "mini-season" here. It's a very quiet time of year for Matt (he's joined us for lunch this week!) and I am thankful for the change of pace. The girls play together so well - and Julianna is on a three-week long break from preschool (because of the lunar new year) so they get even more time to laugh and sing and pretend together. Lydia typically wakes first in the afternoons and she literally stands at the door to my bedroom hollering, "Nana Nana Hey Nana" waiting for Julianna (sleeping on my bed) to wake up. This isn't my favorite habit of Lydia's, and I usually try to distract her from waking her sleeping sister, but I do love that she wants her sister to wake up and play!

Sunday, January 18, 2009

The Shack review

I'm not really very in tune with the "hip and happening news" about America or American culture. I don't even read U.S. based news websites (yay for the bbc website!). I wish I could blame my American cultural ignorance on "not living in America", but honestly I wasn't very into the hip and happening when I lived there either :)

Anyways, one thing I do know is that the book The Shack is getting lots of press and boasts lots of readers. I just finished it a week or so ago. And thought I would recommend this book review. It's long, but worth it! If you or others you know read the book and are curious about how the book holds up against a strong, Biblically-based theology, you'll really enjoy it!

Saturday, January 17, 2009

kicking back with a picnic snack

For afternoon snack one of the girls favorite requests is "picnic snack"... sounds fancy, but it's simple really: eating snack sitting on the living room floor, picnic style. Though Lydia isn't a big fan of sitting down for long, so it's more like a roving picnic for her.

A few days ago I took these two photos of "picnic snack" - the girls were sitting in their chairs under the living room windows, chomping on some raisins and peanuts. Yum.




I love that something as simple as "picnic snack" can be the highlight of the hour! "Yay Lydia, we get to have picnic snack," is Julianna's typical response. One of the joys of motherhood is most definitely that providing little joys for your little ones can be so simple :)

Thursday, January 15, 2009

warming up for the year of the ox-cow

Well, the weather forecast says that its supposed to warm up starting tomorrow and we can expect a beautiful weekend! I am ready!! The one positive to all the cold-weather-inside-the-house-bundling is the girls just look so cute -



This is post-breakfast Lydia, still in her pajamas and sporting a thick sweater with her winter hat. Oh yeah, and she's already wearing her wings!

In other big news, the lunar calendar new year is just around the corner. Yep, we're leaving the year of the rat in the dust, it's time to welcome the year of the ox. (My personal preference is to refer to last year as "year of the mouse" and the upcoming year as "year of the cow" - it just sounds better than "rat" and "ox".)

The celebrations will undoubtedly be much louder than I'd like - in fact, in our neighborhood every kid over the age of 7 has already lit approximately 15 firecrackers in preparation for the festivities. Might not sound like much, but we live in pretty dense housing, and it adds up to a lot of noise. Especially considering we're still ten days away from the big night.

The lunar calendar new year is next weekend - Sunday night is the "eve" and Monday is the first day of the ox-cow year. We'll celebrate by stockpiling the fridge with food and laying low for a few days. EVERYTHING closes - the market, restaurants, mini-marts, everything. Guess that's to give shop owners and restaurant cooks more time to set off firecrackers. Oh joy!



One more random tidbit to leave you with... just in case you inferred from my last post that our family has deep theological conversations day in and day out, you'll be glad to know that in the past two days Lydia has learned to say "woooo-hooooo doggie!'', which is one of Matt's favorite ways to respond to my post-dinner "ok everybody, it's time for some dessert". He says it because it makes the girls laugh. And start looking for the dessert. When Lydia said it last night we all busted out laughing. I love a talking toddler :)

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

3 year old theology

Earlier this fall I was exposed to some material (at www.childrendesiringgod.org) that encouraged me to persevere in teaching Scriptural truths to young children. Young children can and do have a theology!

And although there are times that I have my doubts, and want to quit training and teaching, and feel like I am on a long and winding road that might not actually lead anywhere, I trust that God is faithful to use our efforts. That the road DOES lead somewhere, and if God chooses to gracefully intervene and open their eyes to truth, my children will one day know Jesus for who He really is and what He did for them on the cross.

And in the meantime, God is gracious to give me glimpses of truth sinking in, hearts being penetrated, Scripture taking root. No promises of tomorrow. No guarantees that they will know Christ at an early age and choose to walk with Him for a lifetime. But a hope and courage to keep on training and trusting.

Like tonight. I overheard this snippet of conversation -

Matt: God must punish sin because God is just.
Julianna: Yeah, He is just that good. (pause) And he is just too.

Now, does Julianna really understand that God's righteousness, His justice, is part of His goodness? That God could not be wholly good if he were not wholly just? No, she probably doesn't understand all of that. But, as usual, she surprises me with what she DOES understand. And my hunch is that she understands more than I might think.

At the very least, I was challenged to reconsider again the intermingling of God's justice, His righteousness, His goodness.

Monday, January 12, 2009

the temperature is not the end of the story

For the record....

I am wearing
one short sleeve shirt,
one long sleeve shirt,
one wool sweater,
and one fluffy down vest.

I am inside my apartment.

I am cold.

Now, before you assume we moved to the north pole, let me clarify. It ISN'T that cold! The high was supposed to be 50 F. It might not have been quite 50, but it was close. So why am I cold? Because concrete walled apartments with no insulation, single-paned windows, and no central heat are CHILLY in the wintertime! Our poor little heaters have been running all day long and they just can't keep us warm.

I can't wait to get the girls snuggled in their beds for the night and take a hot bath! I'm pretty sure it's the only way I am going to able to warm up my toes :)

Saturday, January 10, 2009

young and blogging

How old do you have to be to blog? Not as old as you might think! The girls don't really know that our family has a blog, but they love to see their friends and family on other blogs. We sit at the computer and look at photos of friends that live in our town, and cousins that live halfway around the world.

The favorites of course, are the little videos that folks like to post. For Julianna's birthday her cousins (Connor, Carson and Kaelynn) posted a video of themselves singing "Happy Birthday to you" on their blog. Julianna has watched it approximately one million times! She watched it so much we even took a picture of her watching it....



[Yes, Erin Ashley, that's your kitchen table!]

Then today our neighbors-who-currently-live-in-America (Erin Ashley, Andy, Emma Grace and new baby Jack) posted a note to the girls on their blog. I can't wait for the girls to wake up from their naps so I can show them! Just today Lydia and I were practicing saying "Jack" in preparation for their return :) Lydia calls him "dak", but I'm hoping he won't mind!

Anther favorite blog is "Caroline and Will's" - I like to point out how cute Caroline's clothes look since we get all her hand-me-downs :)

I was in college before I really even started to email - my girls watch internet videos of their friends and cousins 12,000 miles away!

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

packing up

Julianna's buddy Kayleigh gave her the cutest little backpack and Julianna just LOVES to wear it! She fills it full of toys, books & games, slings it on her shoulders, and totes it around the house.


Last night she and Grandma had a sleepover (our visitors have been staying at our neighbors' empty apartment, right across from our place). Julianna was so excited to pack up her backpack for the big evening out. Her packing list included: Jing Jing (her stuffed panda), a stack of books, her new dominoes game, her reindeer pajamas (so she and Grandma could match) and her chapstick. With a little prompting she added a toothbrush and then scurried off to find her sleeping bag.


As a mom who travels (a little too frequently), I'm glad to see that she likes to pack! Maybe I can recruit her help the next time we head out of town :)

Monday, January 5, 2009

getting serious about dress-up

The box of dress-up clothes that we gave the girls for Christmas is a big hit! Truth be told, everything in the box was a hand-me-down that other moms have gradually passed on to me - I've had a few of the things for over a year and accumulated a large stash of all kinds of fun duds!

Back in October Xiao Li and I combed through the loot and took things that needed repair to the local tailor, tossed the things that were beyond repair, and washed everything... the result was a large pile of very pink, very frilly clothing, and accompanying accessories (shoes, boas, etc).


It's fun to watch Julianna enjoy it.....

... and I'm pleasantly surprised at how eager Lydia is to join the fun!


Grandma Jan added a few more dresses, some spiffy shoes, and the coveted wings to the stash (thank goodness she brought three sets of wings - the girls consider no outfit complete without wings!).

Luther left early this morning, just a few short days after Krisanne and Paul headed home. Jan is here for another whole week, and we are determined to make the best of every single day!

Saturday, January 3, 2009

Lydia and babies (dolls are one thing, but what about a real sibling??)

My girls love to play with baby dolls. I just hope Lydia is as gentle and tender with her new sibling as she is with her babies - but I have my doubts :) She is such an attached-to-mommy little girl... I have a sneaking feeling that the adjustment to "not the baby anymore" is going to be a challenge.

I love these photos of her and her baby doll in the afternoon sunlight -








Only 11 weeks til baby #3's due date, which means Lydia's time as the baby of the family is growing short. Let's hope she enjoys these last months!

Thursday, January 1, 2009

New Years Day memories

Six years ago, on New Year's Day 2003, I flew to Beijing to meet Matt and his parents, Krisanne, Andy and Kristi. That was before Paul. Before Connor and Carson and Kaelynn. Before Julianna and Lydia and baby #3! We've added a lot of people in six years!

Check out this photo of all of us in 2003!


Matt and I on the Great Wall. We were married 4 months later :)


I spent some time this morning thinking and dreaming about 2009. And just spent a bit of time this afternoon looking back at past New Year's Days. New Years 2003 was an especially fun memory :)

Want to see one more New Year's photo - here's Julianna and I, New Years 2006!